Confessions of a non-pregnant man

So in light of Lilli’s blog, , I decided it was my turn to give a few of my important thoughts that have come from my experience of having 4 babies.  It would be helpful if you looked at our blogs side by side as this is intended to be my perspective on the same things.  Here’s her blog again:

1.  There is no relief like the sudden relief that you get when the baby is born and it cries like a baby instead of making alien noises that would correspond to how it looks at the moment.

2. Husbands can lie to if they need to… and they need to.  It’s ok. Of course I enjoyed waking up at 3:30 to go to the hospital and of course I’m fine sleeping on the massive bars that hit me mid-back on this fold out chair/bed.

3. Having a baby does hurt.  Lilli did cut her fingernails in advance this time.

4.  Just having a baby does hurt too, see #2 about sleeping on steel bars.

5. The tv remote volume thing is annoying.  No matter how hard I try, it always seems to be left somewhere that makes it hard to hear.

6. Sweet nurses are the best, but people who don’t close the door when they leave are not.  Don’t they realize I am trying to blog and I have AD hmm I wonder what nurses do when they aren’t nursing?

7. It’s even more awkward when you are trying to make jokes when the nurse and doctor are mad at each other and nobody laughs (even and especially your wife).

8. Did I mention sleeping on steel bars hurts?

9. Really, yes you mentioned it, but I may need some of her pain meds after having to sleep on the steel bars again tonight.

10.  All the discomforts of your pregnancy and birth are worth it whenever you get to hold the sweet baby in your arms and introduce it to college football!

11. Everyone will love me when I invent a pull out chair/bed for hospitals that is actually comfortable.  I actually woke up this morning thinking about it.

12. Staying in a hospital room when your herd of kids comes to visit.  Not sure we will ever even be able to hear our newborn cry once we get home.

13. No humor here.  We did not do this with Ada and we paid for it.

14. I love that I got to give Jesse William his pacifier for the first time.  It’s about all that a dad can do to make their babies happy!

15. Having to buzz in and being asked “how can I help you” every time I enter the women’s hall is annoying.  You have a camera and I have done this 15 times or so in the last 24 hours.  Vote on what you want me to say:

A. I’m a scientist studying weight loss and hear most of your patients lose 10-15 pounds in a couple of hours.  Can I please interview the patient in room 358?

B. I’m coming in to get the best sleep of my life on the awesome pull out chair/bed.

C. I’m with Publishers Clearinghouse and someone has won the sweepstakes.

D. Can I just come in and use the free wi-fi?

E.  Write in your own suggestions with a comment.

16. Not having DVR gives me a super human ability to take 3 minute naps every 8 minutes.  DVR is quite impressive and I miss it.

17. I miss my big comfy bed.

18. Circumcision day breaks a daddy’s heart even worse than a mama’s.  Ouch.

19. Since Jesse (I will not call him JW) is number last, I have decided to start on his baby exercises early.  You can never work out too much when you are shooting for Rhodes Scholar and Heisman winner.

20. I could not decide what to call him earlier in the week, but have settled it, he is Jesse, even if I have called him JD a few times by accident.

21. I wouldn’t know a lot about new baby smell b/c my nose is stuff up and I can’t smell anything.

22. Free refills of Mountain Dew over ice in an insulated foam cup is a small taste of heaven.  Jesus would have turned water into Mountain Dew if he was here today.

23. Watching your wife struggle to give birth and fighting through it makes me feel way less tough.

24. Slow labor is exhausting on the husband as well.  Quick labor is scary and exhausting when you have to drive an hour to get to the hospital and your wife is having contractions every 3-5 minutes.  Half way here, Lilli said, “what are you going to do if you get stopped by the police.”  Me: “Ask them if they know how to deliver a baby or if they want to escort me to the hospital?”

25. I can’t believe Lilli did anything early.  Per her parents she used to be late to everything, now she is late rarely and on time to almost everything.  This early thing is a first.  Is that really my wife?

26.  I can’t believe she had the baby in under 2 hours.  I normally have to whine a lot about my back hurting before she even gets her epidural.  I am using up all the whining that has been growing within me for the last 9 months on the issue of the fold out chair/bed and those massive steel support bars that may leave permanent marks on my back.

27. When Izzy had to go on formula, I realized how much I love nursing.  Is formula made of USDA Prime Filet Mignon, caviar, or solid gold?

28. Agreed and so thankful to Geanenne Kelly and Kim Powers for their help with the kids on d-day (delivery day) and f.d-day (fake delivery day).

29. I love watching my team vs Lilli’s and Nick’s teams.  Too bad Jesse does not seem to be a good luck charm for my teams.  Maybe State basketball will at least beat Oklahoma State later tonight.

30. They say after pains get worse with each birth…. agreed.  I don’t remember the chair/bed being this bad before (well that might be a lie, but see #2–I’m just trying to get some attention at a time when the mama gets all the attention).

31. Hospital food isn’t bad (I actually enjoy the breakfast) but with all we are paying to be here, you would think I could get free food each meal and it would be 5 star quality–not slightly better than your average camp meal (note that Camp Cherokee meals are not average-they are awesome).

32. If I knew Lilli Mitchell went through all this for hospital ice, I would just buy an ice machine like that for her.  Way cheaper and way better on my back.

33.  Yea I know she did not do a 33, but here’s my original contribution: I love being a dad and having a wife who loves children and who has a great sense of humor and finds most of my jokes funny–especially when she is on pain meds.


Look forward to your feedback and if anyone wants to work together on a comfortable hospital chair/bed I will split profits with you 80-20 with you if you do 80% of the work.  Joel Mears says you can get 80% of the credit with 20% of the work and it’s that last 80% of the work that gets you the last 20% of the credit.  It’s a good theory about life and I will share my ideas with you if you will do the work on a better chair/bed.

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Things you can’t do alone

There are some things that you just can’t do well alone.  This video highlights a few of them:

Anyone want to make a suggestion on something else that is tough to do by yourself?

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Friday Night Fun

As  I continue video announcements/blogging, here’s a brief video about Friday night and dodgeball



Praying for God to work in a mighty way and to bring tons of students out!

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Another test post

This time I’m trying to embed the video within the post instead of simply adding it.  So here goes:

Above you should find my test video.  If I did it right, of course.

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Test Video

Just a test video I’m uploading to make sure I have all the settings right.

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11 months and discipline?

So I realized last week that I am extremely busy, but not always disciplined in my busyness and created a schedule to help me (hopefully) become a little more disciplined in my lifestyle.  Within my schedule I tried to alot 15 minutes a day (a couple days a week) for posting on social media accounts and blogging.  15 minutes is not a lot and many people might struggle to keep their time at that amount.  I could lurk on social media all day (which I am trying not to do), but I am going to try to discipline myself to devote some time to actually posting things.  Which means here is my goal and priorities:

1. Facebook: I use it for ministry purposes because so many awesome FBC Georgetown students are on it. I need to maintain a more active presence on it and am going to try to do be active by doing more than just posting events.

2. Twitter: I am great at lurking there because I follow so many great men and women.  You should get a twitter just to get Christian encouragement from people like Alvin Reid and Ed Stetzer.  Twitter is awesome for finding links to relevant blogs as well.

3. Google +: I have an account, but am not there often, but need to use it a little more just to see what is going on with it. Anybody have any useful feedback on it? Is it necessary to use at this point?

4. WordPress: This is where I need to learn to post things that are longer than twitter, but personal like facebook.  I want to also use my blog to practice writing.  You are welcome to follow me.  Hopefully I will make the time to post here a little more often–meaning I will learn my password, remember that it is wordpress and not blogspot (like I just tried), and post more often than 11 months (maybe every 11 days this time)?  Don’t expect something great on here, remember I am trying to do it in under 15 minutes. 


How do you manage your social media time and what is your goal?  Mine has been to grow in the gospel of Christ (hence following great guys who tweet a lot about the greatest story ever told: (, but over the next few months I hope to contribute by using social media. Let’s see how much it happens. You can probably help it happen more often by telling me how you use your social media time and how you track it.

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The Story

Check this awesome story out!

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Church on Saturday night?

So, Lilli and I went to Summit church on Saturday afternoon for a 4:15 service.  It felt really weird to do service on a Saturday afternoon, but we really enjoyed it.  I was going to do a lengthy blog about it, but Lilli beat me to the punch so I’m just gonna link to her blog.  Here our thoughts there:

The only 2 things I would add is how much I enjoyed worshipping in a community that really seemed to enjoy it.  It was amazing to feel the voices of other believers around us.  I was also really blessed to just participate in worship.  It was refreshing.  Check it out sometime.

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Can you do church online? A book review of SimChurch

This is a book review I did for Dr. Hammett for an ecclesiology seminar. Read the review and give me your thoughts about whether or not you can have an online church.

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From Haiti to Central Asia and Atlanta: A journey in missions

This is the longer version of what God has been teaching me about missions over the last 14 months or so.  God’s hand has been all over it, but there have been times that I have been really confused.  Here is the timeline:

November (probably) 2009: Tried to book a trip to the Caribbean region for 2010 with the student ministry, but my emails and facebook notes never made it to the leader I was trying to contact.

December 09/Jan 10: Listened to my head pastor about not going to Alaska with World Changers or going international in 2010 and decided to wait to 2011.

June 2010: Started trying to book a trip to the Caribbean region and was able to contact the leader, but we had to wait a few months for school to get started to find out if the ministry was going to fit.

April, June, August 2010: Contacted the IMB and asked about taking a team nearly anywhere, but never heard back from anyone.

September 2010: Found out about an organization going to Haiti!  Was pumped about it and it sounded great, so booked the trip, had a good info meeting on it and waited on applications. Not too worried about cholera: it would pass.

October 2010: Got 7 applications in and started planning for a great trip. It’s still a long time to the trip: cholera will pass.

Mid December: Began to have some uneasiness about Haiti, but just kept praying. Cholera will pass.

January 1-5, 2011: Huge reservations after finding out some other stuff that just didn’t seem right.  No better opportunities, think I just need more faith and cholera might pass before we go.

January 5-11, 2011: Decided I had to talk to my head pastor about my reservations.

January 11, 2011: Met with Pastor Ted and realized that we needed to go another route.  There were pretty serious security issues with the organization we were going with and a pretty large rising difference in philosophy of ministry so we canceled. Cholera really looks like it is not going anywhere.  Called Jack Powers, the best chairman of the youth committee anyone could ask for.  He shared that he had been praying for almost a month that God would show me we needed to go another route.  He didn’t know why, he just did not feel good about it.

January 12-20: Heard about two other organizations that had major issues in Haiti.  One canceled two days out from the trip and the other had to fly a private plane in to evacuate their people after 4 extra days of their team not being able to get out of the country.  A very confirming thing.

I would love to go to Haiti sometime and demonstrate the love of God and help the church there.  The time is just not now.  It was another door closed, but this time God opened a great door…

January 3-8: Was in a seminar with some great personnel who serve in Central Asia.  Developed a pretty good relationship with them pretty quickly and really developed a very deep respect for some people who are very sharp theologically and pastorally with a heart for the Lord.

January 11: bounced Central Asia off my head pastor and the team.  They wanted to explore some other options like Romania, Central America, and maybe East Asia.  They also wanted to keep the trip on spring break.

January 12-19: Kept trying other options, and trying spring break, but nothing worked out there and the trip to Central Asia in June came together great.  I realized I have close personal contacts with several people who are new in the country and just how close the philosophy of ministry lines up.  Decided to bounce Central Asia off the team.  The team is largely in favor of it and in June.

January 20: Announced to the church that we are headed to Central Asia in June.  Opening up for new team members, but with a team size of no more than 12.  Team members must be in at least 9th grade right now and should be prepared to talk/write to me about why they want to go, what they think God will teach them, and how they think God will use them.

Feb. 8th: Applications are due in the church office if you are interested in going with the team to Central Asia.  Let me know if you would like an application.

All told, I could not be more pumped about Central Asia!  God is doing some amazing stuff there as His servants serve Him faithfully.  We will get to do some neat ministry, but we will also get to encourage some faithful servants.  This will be a great trip, so prayerfully consider how you can be a part of it.  Some of you reading this need to go, others need to give, but all need to pray.  So about that Atlanta part:

The church is going to take a family mission trip to help some church plants inside the perimeter of Atlanta during July.  Keith and I chatted about it and felt like that it would be best to let that remain a family trip and let the youth take a youth trip another time.  We were looking at a week at the end of June, but it just wasn’t working.  Once we canceled Haiti, I emailed Jim Haskell the director of the Urban Atlanta Church Planting Network (

Jim said April would work great if it worked for us.  After realizing we had to go international in June, I talked to Pastor Ted about Atlanta and spring break.  All told, the student ministry (middle and high school) will be going to Atlanta over spring break to help out a couple of churches that are faithfully serving the Lord in an urban area.  Students and adults are needed for this trip.  It will be a great opportunity to see one of the great cities of America and help out some churches that are making helping to reach the hundreds of thousands of people inside Atlanta. We will do an info meeting on this trip in the next two weeks hopefully.  As soon as I get more info, I will get it out.

God is doing a lot in our student ministry and in missions.  What part will you play in these two great trips?  Will you be praying, giving, or going?  Ask God what part you need to play as our student ministry tries to partner with people who are reaching the nations by reaching a great multicultural city in the USA and in Central Asia.

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